Boy or girl: What is gender disappointment?

Pregnancy is a life-changing experience, to say the least. After all, giving birth is probably one of the most exciting yet overwhelming time of your life. You are gearing up to welcome a new life in your little world and guessing your baby’s gender is one of the most exciting aspects of the same.
So, whether you are looking forward to a pink bundle of joy that you can dress in laces and ribbons or have already decorated the room and brought tiny toy cars for the little boy, there is no denying that every parent has a heart set on a particular gender of the baby.
While on the surface all you want is a healthy child, more often than not, all of us secretly harbour a preference. This is why it is important to understand that it is perfectly normal to have mixed feelings about the gender of your baby, no matter how hard you try to avoid it. What you are experiencing is nothing else than gender disappointment which is a very real feeling for a lot of new mothers.
We list down a few ways you can cope up with gender disappointment after the arrival of your little one:

Don’t fight what you are feeling

It is important that you accept your emotions first so that it paves way for a healthy healing and closure. It is okay to accept that you wanted a baby of another gender.

Trust yourself

It is okay to feel guilty about not feeling thrilled about the baby’s gender. However, at the same time you have to trust your abilities as a parent and know that you will love your child, no matter what.

The bottom line

Remember, gender disappointment is still talked about in hushed tones and new mom’s are expected to be ecstatic about the birth of her baby. Which is why it is important to remember that your feelings are valid. When you embrace your emotions, you will be ready to let go.